When a promise is broken, it’s often a disappointment and
when already down it could so easily knock a person into a worse place than
they already are. How do you avoid this and how do you overcome the
disappointment?
I am asked this almost daily from people who know the
challenges I am facing and yet I remain positive and hopeful. For them, and
many of them are doing ok in life, my levels of positivity are something they
wish they had. How I do it is, as always say, very easy; I do it because I can
and it is a choice. Anyone can do it as long as it’s a choice – Ying or Yang?
Right or Wrong? Good or Bad? Happy or Sad?
All clear choices that anyone can make.
Broken Promises are the worst kind, but before you know how
to handle the disappointment look at yourself. How many promises have you not
kept? It doesn’t matter how small the promise was or who it was to, it can even
be a promise to yourself. What were the reasons for not keeping it? How did it
affect the person expecting the promise to be fulfilled? Answer these and be
honest with yourself, a lot of the time the reason for breaking a promise is a
pretty pathetic reason, something simple and the feelings felt are not
positive.
How often do you cover up why you broke a promise? Covering
up often makes the whole matter worse for both or all parties. The covering up,
no matter how small the cover up is destroys credibility and trust and often,
if you truly admit it, makes you feel guilty. Again not positive.
Looking at yourself you now have a fairly good idea of how you
and others feel about broken promises or not doing something as you said would
be done. Knowing this on the back end of a broken promise allows you to deal
with it in a manner that can and will change you and your life. Knowing the
feelings changes everything. Once you know this you will understand that how
you react or cope is merely a choice and when there is a choice anyone can
handle it and overcome.
The 3 steps to overcoming a broken promise
Step 1
Step 1 is to make the right choice. The choices when a
promise is not delivered are simple, smile and move on or get angry and argue
it. To enable you to choose which route you need to take you merely need to ask
yourself “which route is the best use of my time”. Getting angry and arguing is
a total waste of time, it may help to vent a little but generally it only makes
matters worse. The choice is to smile
and move on, take a deep breath and smile, don’t let feelings on the broken
promise defeat you.
You feel happy.
Step 2
Step 2 is to look around you and be grateful for what you
have. The broken promise is something you didn’t really have in the first place;
so why do you worry about not getting it? Look around you, stop for a moment
and think of all the good things you have and they will soon overshadow the
broken promise.
You are grateful.
Step 3
Step 3 is where the magic begins. Forgive the person or
people who didn’t deliver on a promise. Deep inside forgive them and feel love
for them. It will not be easy but giving love and focusing on it is just as
easy and wallowing in anger and pity that something never arrived.
You give love
It’s as simple as that, smile, give thanks and love! These
three components can and will change you forever, each has been known for many
years, each is written in the bible, told by Buddha, written in the Koran and
are known by mankind to be 3 of the most power acts in life.
Go into the weekend a happy, thankful and loving person, be
powerful and expect the unexpected in an amazing way!
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